Feminists are sexy

More in the “well, duh!” series.

Of course women who value themselves and take care of themselves are going to be better partners in life. Although the men who are attracted to them are likely to be better partners as well. I certainly wouldn’t want to be around a man who didn’t value me as an equal partner in life.

Study: Feminists are better mates — chicagotribune.com

“If you’re a woman paired with a male feminist,” said Rudman, “you have a healthier relationship across the board”–better in terms of relationship quality, equality, stability and sexual satisfaction.

“And men paired with female feminists have greater sexual satisfaction and greater relationship stability,” she said. “So, [there were] higher scores on two of the four dimensions, with no difference on the other two.”

There you have it: Feminists are sexy.

“Contrary to popular beliefs, feminism does not disrupt men’s pleasure in the bedroom,” said Rudman.

That makes perfect sense to counselors like Gina Ogden, who says “the cultural missionary position–man on top” isn’t conducive to romance.

“If a relationship is based on authoritarian control, keeping one person on top and the other underneath, it gets old pretty fast–for both partners, really,” said Ogden, a Boston sex therapist who surveyed 3,810 people for her book “The Heart and Soul of Sex.”

“In an egalitarian relationship, there is more flow of give and take,” she said, “and that’s the romantic tension. That tension–the sexual desire–is in that space between you where you’re able to flow back and forth.”

In her experience, said Ogden, “where there’s caring, sharing, openness and honesty, sexual satisfaction increases. It not only feels good now, but it is likely to get better and better as you age.”